Free To Be Me On IG. And that goes for you too. 🙂
I have seen so much on Instagram lately, about comparison and feelings of inadequacy – and while I have always found IG to be a place of happy inspiration, I found myself questioning it all last week, and definitely had a crisis of confidence. Am I good enough? Do I match up to the others? Am I doing ok? And then I got to thinking – It CAN’T just be me thinking this?
Whether or not Instagram is your ‘job’ or if it’s just a lovely hobby, I am certain you will most probably have felt like me? We all know that the little squares are not actually always a true representation of real life, they are a little glossy snapshot. We all know that, right? But being constantly bombarded by perfection is going to have a cumulative effect at some point, isn’t it?
I had got to the point where I wasn’t posting images I love, incase they weren’t good enough – I was nervous to post, incase it wasn’t a good enough image, compared to the others when you are scrolling through your news feed & I felt a bit quashed.
I absolutely love to look at curated feeds and really admire how they are done. They look so slick and professional and gorgeous. But when I compared them to my grid, I felt like I was failing. And I am thinking I can’t be the only one to feel like this. I have a big account, I shouldn’t be shy or nervous and I definitely shouldn’t compare myself to others right? We all know the rules. We all know and we would all advise each other to not compare. But we are also all human and its natural to, isn’t it?
We also all know that the squares are just glimpses in to life and that there’s an awful lot of life that we aren’t being shown, too. No one’s life is perfect. Even if that’s what the grid might suggest. We all KNOW that, but I think the cumulative effect of lots of beautiful feeds (and this is in NO WAY knocking anyone’s feed, as everyone’s gallery is individual to them and put together with the flair of the person behind the account) anyway I think it can have a negative effect after a while and a RESET is needed, well that’s how I felt at least!
It made me ask ‘Do I change?’ CAN I change?
And after a swift Instagram pole, the results were a landslide – DO NOT CHANGE!! And I think ANYONE doing a pole asking the same thing, would get the same result. People like you for being YOU. Whatever the YOU is.
We are all individual, no none is a no one, we all have a story to tell and a voice that deserves to be heard. And if its packaged up in a glossy way or a …not glossy way… that is OK!! There really is room for everyone and we all gravitate to different people.
I can’t tell you the relief I felt to be given permission to carry on being unashamedly myself. And I am thinking I need to pass that on!!
I love that you enjoy coming on axe murderer swamp walks with me. I love that you love The Barbaras and I love that you appreciate a good faff. I love that I can tell you about all that stuff, and I also love that I can just rabbit to you about blood cancer and cry a bit and no one minds. Not everyone will be interested, and we can’t all be interested in everyone – especially now the world has shrunk and we can peep in to lives all over the world! It would take all day to catch up with everyone!
So, here it is in black and white – LET’S JUST DO US. You do you, I’ll do me. And yeah you KNOW I tidy the kitchen up just to take a pic. And you can also be very sure that there’s a huge pile of washing just out of shot. My grid won’t match, because I am far too flighty and shoot from the hip, but how BORING would life be, if we were all the same!
Let’s post what we like when we want. Yes there will be a few ads on my grid (another thing thats made me anxious) but I had the loveliest message today along the lines of
‘Thank you for showing me that ‘X” I know it was an AD, but I trust you and now I have ‘X’ and I am so happy you told me!’
TRUST. Vital. So instead of stressing that everyone hates ads, I am going to be confident in what I show you, but never take your trust for granted. If I tell you the shoes are comfy, I promise I find them comfy, if I say size up, it’s because I am trying to help you get the right size. And if I say I like something, I PROMISE I DO. And instead of worrying, I am owning those ads!
Doesn’t mean there will suddenly be heaps more – as I also accept that there can be a cumulative dislike of ads in general when you are scrolling and you see, I dunno, 4 ads for the same thing (or any thing) in a row. THAT is annoying. Equally – side note – think the brands and PR agencies need to make sure that the ads going live, are staggered so we don’t all see back to back ads on our feeds. Difficult to do now we aren’t chronological any more but if we can get a man to the moon SURELY someone can figure that out!
Anyway – the whole AD debacle is definitely a post for anther day.
I really just want to tell you it’s ok to be YOU – because you told me it’s ok to be me! I think we all need to be more confident in being ourselves. Because it’s exhausting trying to be someone we aren’t or something we aren’t!
And I feel SO much better for putting it out there and ASKING. Problem shared and all that.
Fancy a new hashtag to free us all up? #FreeToBeMeOnIg If you want to smash it out of the park with a killer shot, or a tidy kitchen – HURRAH! If you want to photograph your lunch or your dog HURRAH! If you want to show us your messy kitchen, HURRAH! Whatever you fancy whenever you fancy it! HURRAH AND AMEN to that. And hurrah for Stories where I LOVE the freedom of chatting to you.
Omg Suddenly have the urge to stand naked on a mountain with my bra waving in the breeze (tastefully shot from a distance OBVS!!)
Will recycle this from last weekend. That’ll have to do for now and it’s as near as I’ll get to standing naked on a mountain – anyway its a metaphor lol
THANKYOU for reading – tell me what you think? I am really interested to know!!